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Trauma Bonds and Motherhood
One of the things survivors hear a lot is, “Why didn’t you just leave?” What they don’t realize is that we ask ourselves the same question day after day. But really, why didn’t you leave? You genuinely want to know. This happens because there’s something called a trauma bond. Click here for more trauma bond…
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Self Care DOESN’T Work
Self Care and taking care of yourself is NOT the same thing. Before you say that they are, considering they’re the same words, they aren’t the same concept. You have to understand the difference between the two in order to have a healthy relationship with them both. So what IS the difference? Taking care of…
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Beginner’s Guide to Healing from Abuse as a Mom
Healing from abuse as a mom feels pretty dang impossible. But as someone who has been there, done that, I’m here to tell you that it’s not. This is the Beginner’s Guide to Healing from Abuse as a Mom. Disclaimer: Everybody’s recovery journey is different. If you’re able to get support, get that support. If…
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How to Stay Calm While Triggered
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/9twwac/how_to_stay_calm_while_triggered_done9r83u.mp3 Learning your triggers is great, but how are you supposed to keep calm when you’re actually in that triggered moment? First – go grab my free ebook all about triggers. This is going to walk you through how to find, manage and cope with your triggers. The ebook and this episode go hand…
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How Abuse Effects Your Life
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/52wxmh/abuse_stays_with_you_donebpyr5.mp3 Unfortunately, the effects of abuse don’t immediately stop the moment you leave the relationship. Honestly, the effects can follow you years and even decades after. I have talked to women in their 60s and 70s who were in abusive relationships in their 20s. They are still haunted by what happened to them. While this…
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222: You Are Their Safe Space
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/yeysbt/safe_space_DONEbqb27.mp3 I received a message on Instagram a couple of months ago from a woman who was really struggling with her son. He was around 5 or 6 years old and was a total terror around her. But when he was with his dad, the mamas ex-abusive partner, or other family he seemed to…
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221: How Healing Helps Your Kids
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/bmk9as/how_healing_helps_your_kids_AUDIOb9kku.mp3 How can your healing actually benefit your kids? What I hear from a lot of moms is that they don’t want their kids to see them weak. They don’t want their kids to see them collapsed on the floor or in a struggle. They want to be strong for their kids. As mamas we…
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220: Why You Can’t Clean Your House
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/dtcce4/why_you_can_t_clean_your_houseaq9g2.mp3 The abuse we went through is impacting every area of our life and we don’t even realize it. And the part that nobody talks about is the fact that it impacts our ability to take care of our home. When you’re in the abusive relationship, there are certain standards that are expected of you.…
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186: One of the KEYS to Healing: Grief
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/2u4yf9/grieve_live_PODCAST_DONEbp954.mp3 There is SO much grief that comes with leaving an abusive relationship. People don’t understand that, which makes sense, right? If you haven’t gone through it, you’re not going to understand it. There are many different ways grief shows up in an abusive relationship. The biggest thing you grieve is the person. The…
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167: Are you ‘a lot?’
Have you ever been told that you’re too much? You’re too loud, too quiet, your personality is too big or too small. Too whatever. If so, you’re not alone. I was having a conversation with my mom a few weeks ago and it hit me that yes, I AM a lot. Your first reaction to…