78: Abusive Relationships and the Brain

There is nothing that irritates me more than when someone looks at a victim of abuse and says “you should’ve just left.” Not only is this a ridiculously insensitive comment, but it also reflects their ignorance to the subject. Victims don’t stay in abusive relationships because we like the abuse. What we go through actuallyContinue reading “78: Abusive Relationships and the Brain”

77: Confidence and Abuse Recovery

As I stated in my intro, I’m an abuse recovery and confidence coach. One might look at that and wonder how they merge together. But the truth is that confidence and self worth are your greatest weapons against an abusive partner. One of the first things they will do after love bombing the crap outContinue reading “77: Confidence and Abuse Recovery”

76: Flying Monkeys and the Smear Campaign

When it comes to the cycle of narcissistic abuse, discarding hardly ends the connection you have with them. That’s when the smear campaign begins and they send their flying monkeys out to help. “…smear campaign? Flying monkeys? Girl what are you on?!“ That’s what we’re going to dig into today. While it sounds like somethingContinue reading “76: Flying Monkeys and the Smear Campaign”

75: Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse

Most things in life are a cycle. This is especially so in abusive relationships. While they can be unpredictable, for the most part they go in a repeatable cycle. I’ve shared a lot about the Cycle of Abuse before, but this is particularly the cycle of Narcissistic Abuse. This is important to recognize because IContinue reading “75: Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse”

74: The Traits of a Narcissist

Narcissist is a buzzword right now. Because so many people only have a basic idea of what it means, I wanted to share the actual traits of a narc. First, remember that it’s a spectrum. As humans, we all carry a few narcissistic traits. But there’s a difference between traits and full blown Narcissistic PersonalityContinue reading “74: The Traits of a Narcissist”

73: Top Terms in Abuse Recovery

2020 was a year of mass confusion for us all. But particularly so for those of us in the abuse recovery space. I don’t know about you, but I kept hearing so many new phrases that I didn’t understand. Gaslighting, discarding, love bombing, flying monkeys. What on earth?! The more I dug into my ownContinue reading “73: Top Terms in Abuse Recovery”

72: What’s your Word?

2020 has finally come to an end. Here’s a warm welcome to 2021. Happy freakin’ new year, boo! We survived! We made it! That’s worth celebrating. So make sure you do that today. Take a few minutes and celebrate what you just did. And yes, surviving is worth celebrating. Waking up today is worth celebrating.Continue reading “72: What’s your Word?”

69: Trust Issues: The Ultimate Umbrella

Do you have trust issues? If you answered no, I would love it if you’d reach out because I’d to love to know your secrets. If you answered yes, you’re most definitely not alone. One of the most important people you need to learn to trust, then, is yourself. While you may not have thoughtContinue reading “69: Trust Issues: The Ultimate Umbrella”