Cycle of Narcissistic Relationships

Narcissism is a buzzword and for good reason. As we begin to step into a season where we finally accept that we deserve boundaries and respect, the narc, and narcissistic tendencies, become less covert. This is a very simplified overview of the cycle of narcissistic abuse, but it is still incredibly powerful. When it comesContinue reading “Cycle of Narcissistic Relationships”

What’s Reactive Abuse?

There are many different forms of abuse, but reactive abuse is one of the least talked about. This manipulation tactic makes you question your own sanity and you lose trust in yourself. It also takes away any sense of independence that you have. Today I’m going to share with you what reactive abuse is, howContinue reading “What’s Reactive Abuse?”

#58: Survive the Holidays

Christmas is my absolute favorite holiday. My birthday is in May and I would happily trade it for another Christmas. I’m a total Christmas geek. But as much as I love the holiday season, I know that this is one of the hardest times of the year. It’s crazy rushing around trying to get ChristmasContinue reading “#58: Survive the Holidays”

#57: The Cycle of Abuse

A question that I’ve received a lot pertains to how abuse continues to perpetuate in relationships when we know they’re bad. This was a question I asked myself for a long time. From the time I was 12-23, I was in a horrid cycle of abusive relationships. I didn’t understand why every relationship was aContinue reading “#57: The Cycle of Abuse”

#55: 5 Steps to Stop Gaslighting Yourself

Gaslighting is the buzzword in the recovery and personal development space right now. And I couldn’t be happier about it. The more aware you become about gaslighting, the more you see it. I’ve caught myself doing it to my son, I see it in the way adults communicate. I see it in how people communicateContinue reading “#55: 5 Steps to Stop Gaslighting Yourself”

3 Steps to Surviving the Holidays

The holidays can be a wonderful time. They can also be a time full of stress, anxiety, and fear. For those of us in abuse recovery, it can be especially difficult. I want you to know that I see you and I understand. As much as I love Christmas, it’s also extremely hard for me.Continue reading “3 Steps to Surviving the Holidays”

#53: 7 Signs you’re in a Trauma Bond

Do you have a trauma bond? Have you heard this term before? If you haven’t, you’re not alone. I didn’t know what a trauma bond was until earlier this year. But once I did, it completely blew my mind. Trauma bonds are the connections that we have with our abuser. These are really powerful connectionsContinue reading “#53: 7 Signs you’re in a Trauma Bond”

Hoovering? What’s that?

Hoovering? Isn’t that a vacuum cleaner? I’m not gonna lie, that’s the first thing I thought of when I heard the term hoovering. But as I dug deeper, I found out that it’s something I experienced over and over again. Hoovering is what your abuser will do after you leave the relationship to try toContinue reading “Hoovering? What’s that?”

Can you Gaslight Yourself?

Gaslighting is quite the buzzword these days, and frankly I’m happy about it. I’m so glad that it’s being brought to light. The more we talk about these awful abusive tactics, the more victims realize that they’re not crazy and they’re not alone. However, something not talked about enough is self-gaslighting. I realized this wasContinue reading “Can you Gaslight Yourself?”