89: Their Trauma Ain’t Your Job

As survivors, we tend to give excuses. This isn’t out of anything other than having huge hearts and a longing for love. We understand what we’ve been through and how we feel and we don’t want others feeling this way. Because of that, we’ll be more understanding than we should. “He’s been through a lot,Continue reading “89: Their Trauma Ain’t Your Job”

86: How do you communicate?

Do you know your communication style? I know that may seem odd, but think about it for a minute. I didn’t understand how important this was until I started getting into the coaching world. There are so many amazing coaches out there but not all of them resonate with me. And for awhile, I didn’tContinue reading “86: How do you communicate?”

85: Feeling Stuck? Find your Why.

As you’re continuing along your recovery journey, there’s going to reach a point where you feel stuck. It seems like you smacked right into a brick wall and you can’t move past it. No matter what you do, you can’t seem to get over it, around it or under it. It’s completely holding you back.Continue reading “85: Feeling Stuck? Find your Why.”

84: The Voices that Say You’re Not Enough

You want to do more. There’s this feeling in your gut that there’s more out there for you and you’re ready to go after it. But then the voice of “Not Good Enough” pops in and yells at you. It tells you that you’re not enough. Not good enough. Not worthy enough. It gives youContinue reading “84: The Voices that Say You’re Not Enough”

What the Heck is Projection?

Have you ever been accused of something, completely out of the blue, with no evidence that it actually happened? And even when you address this they continue pushing anyway? Chances are you were the victim of projection. This word is used a lot within the personal development circle, but isn’t talked about enough when itContinue reading “What the Heck is Projection?”

83: How to Know when you’re Ready

When it comes to recovery – how do you know that you’re ready? How do you know that now is the time to finally step into this new chapter of your life? Let me know if any of these resonate with you: You have this voice in the back of your head that tells youContinue reading “83: How to Know when you’re Ready”

82: Why is the Guilt so Heavy?

Let’s talk about guilt and abuse recovery. People who haven’t experienced this don’t understand why the guilt we feel is so heavy. “They abused you – what do you have to be guilty for?!” This only confuses survivors more and causes us to implode. On a logical level, we’re aware. We know that we shouldn’tContinue reading “82: Why is the Guilt so Heavy?”

Cognitive Dissonance and Abuse Recovery

Have you ever felt like no matter what you do you can’t seem to get a handle on your thoughts and feelings? You miss him but also know he hurt you. You’re desperately in love with him but he also hurt you. If that resonates with you, you’re not alone. This is cognitive dissonance atContinue reading “Cognitive Dissonance and Abuse Recovery”