Author: thekarleighproject
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Trauma Bonds and Motherhood
One of the things survivors hear a lot is, “Why didn’t you just leave?” What they don’t realize is that we ask ourselves the same question day after day. But really, why didn’t you leave? You genuinely want to know. This happens because there’s something called a trauma bond. Click here for more trauma bond…
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Trusting your Gut after Abusive Relationships
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/ucd32k/learn_to_trust_your_gut_podcast_DONE6x214.mp3 One of the most important things that we need to do as moms is learn how to listen to our gut. And this is one of the most difficult things to do in general, but especially after going through an abusive relationship. Because at this point, you don’t even know what reality is let…
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Self Care DOESN’T Work
Self Care and taking care of yourself is NOT the same thing. Before you say that they are, considering they’re the same words, they aren’t the same concept. You have to understand the difference between the two in order to have a healthy relationship with them both. So what IS the difference? Taking care of…
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Beginner’s Guide to Healing from Abuse as a Mom
Healing from abuse as a mom feels pretty dang impossible. But as someone who has been there, done that, I’m here to tell you that it’s not. This is the Beginner’s Guide to Healing from Abuse as a Mom. Disclaimer: Everybody’s recovery journey is different. If you’re able to get support, get that support. If…
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How to Stay Calm While Triggered
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/9twwac/how_to_stay_calm_while_triggered_done9r83u.mp3 Learning your triggers is great, but how are you supposed to keep calm when you’re actually in that triggered moment? First – go grab my free ebook all about triggers. This is going to walk you through how to find, manage and cope with your triggers. The ebook and this episode go hand…
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Are you Gaslighting your Kids?
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/rg2bnz/gaslighting_your_kids_DONE8ufy9.mp3 Are you gaslighting your kids? Chances are… you are. Not because you’re a bad mom and not because you don’t care about your kids. It’s because that’s how you were treated. It’s how we were taught. But today we’re going to talk about why it’s not helpful, how it’s actually harmful, and how to…
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Building Self Trust is Key to Healing from Abuse
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/dwedtt/build_self_trustDONEapb8n.mp3 One major thing holding you back from living the life you want, from being the mom you want, is trust. I’m not just talking about trusting other people. That’s obviously a struggle because we’ve experienced abuse. What I’m referring to right now is trusting yourself. It’s incredibly difficult to trust ourselves when we’ve…
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How Abuse Effects Your Life
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/52wxmh/abuse_stays_with_you_donebpyr5.mp3 Unfortunately, the effects of abuse don’t immediately stop the moment you leave the relationship. Honestly, the effects can follow you years and even decades after. I have talked to women in their 60s and 70s who were in abusive relationships in their 20s. They are still haunted by what happened to them. While this…
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222: You Are Their Safe Space
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/yeysbt/safe_space_DONEbqb27.mp3 I received a message on Instagram a couple of months ago from a woman who was really struggling with her son. He was around 5 or 6 years old and was a total terror around her. But when he was with his dad, the mamas ex-abusive partner, or other family he seemed to…
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221: How Healing Helps Your Kids
https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/bmk9as/how_healing_helps_your_kids_AUDIOb9kku.mp3 How can your healing actually benefit your kids? What I hear from a lot of moms is that they don’t want their kids to see them weak. They don’t want their kids to see them collapsed on the floor or in a struggle. They want to be strong for their kids. As mamas we…