166: 7 Years Out? You’re untouched, boo.


A few months ago I saw a TikTok that really hit me, but it wasn’t until last week that I actually internalized it.

What I learned is that our cells regenerate every seven years.

The cells in our body are completely new every seven years. Our liver, kidneys, and our skin.

This means that every seven years, you basically get a new body.

Why does this matter?

That means that once you’ve been away from your abuser for seven years, you’re untouched by them.

They’ve never touched who you are right now.

There are so many things that many wouldn’t even consider to be triggering.

When you shower, the act of a washcloth running down your arm.
The way your clothes feel when they brush against your skin.
Leaning against the wall.

Whether you’ve been physically abused or emotionally abused, you want to crawl out of your skin. Your body feels like a shirt that’s two sizes too small.

A major struggle for me has been processing through the physical abuse that happened to me when I was 17. The only thought that stuck in my head was the way he touched me.

Realizing that it’s been more than 10 years since then means that he has NEVER touched this body.

I’ve grown, I’ve healed, and I feel completely new but that always held me back. But now, I AM completely new. This body is untouched by him and that was so freeing.

How magical is that?!

Our body knows that it needs a fresh start. It sheds memories, trauma and even physical hurt.

I realize this is an oversimplification but I want you to take a deep breath.

The air that’s going in your lungs right now isn’t the same air that went in when you were in the abusive relationship.

Run your fingers up and down your arm, take a moment to connect with your body.

If it’s been more than seven years, that body hasn’t been touched by them.

If it hasn’t been seven years, hold onto hope for the fact that your body WILL BE untouched by them.

How magnificent is that? Take it in that one day you’re going to be in a body that has never been violated, never been touched.

I’m not making light of the trauma we’ve gone through because I understand there’s so much more to it.

But when we can help our brain understand that freedom truly does exist, even freedom from an abused body.

That’s a pretty radical, magical thought.

I know you’ve gone through more than I can even imagine. You deserve to know that there’s hope, there’s freedom waiting for you.

Maybe this brings you some hope or maybe it doesn’t mean anything to you because your life has been so permanently effected.

And that’s ok. There’s no rush to push past the pain and grief. It’s an important part of the healing process.

Whether you have a year left of seven years left, this can feel overwhelming, seven years feels like forever away.

That’s ok.

I just know that you deserve to have hope, even if hope feels like too much right now.

More than anything, I want you to know that there’s still magic inside of you. Even on the darkest days and even in the most triggering moments and even in those times where you consider not waking up tomorrow, there’s magic.

Even though you may not be able to see it and like it’s going so slow.

I know all of this is easier said than done.

But you deserve to know that your body is YOURS.

If this resonated with you, if it brought you some hope, I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to reach out to me on Instagram – my DMs are always open.


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