This episode is going to be a bit different. It’s going to be a little pep talk mixed with tough love bust you past the things holding you back.
When it comes to going after what you want, are you an excuse maker or an action taker?
I know that’s super blunt, but we’re getting straight to the point today. No messing around.
How often do we say we want something but find a million and ten reasons to continue putting it off and yet we wonder why we’re not making progress?
Girl, can I get real with you? You’ve just gotta take action.
You’ve just gotta take that first step.
You know why they say the first step is the hardest take? Because that’s the one that has the most excuses.
You’ve just got to take the first step. Just take the dang action. Stop finding reasons to put it off.
This applies to any and every goal, but especially when you’re trying to better yourself. Whether you’re starting your recovery journey, trying to work through some childhood stuff, or just trying to change your mindset.
We always find reasons to wait until tomorrow. We’re going to start Monday. We’ll start when life gets easier (that one makes me laugh – life is never going to get easier, boo), when things fall into place.
I’m sorry, boo. But it’s time to let go of the excuses.
Any reason why you can’t do something is an excuse. Unless it is a physical impossibility, like sprouting wings tomorrow, it’s an excuse.
Pick up the book. Start the workout program. Get the coach. Start the blog. Try the podcast.
Whatever it is JUST. TAKE. ACTION.
We as a society are such an excuse driven people. Heck, look at the world around us. We’re constantly making excuses why we can’t eat better, drink more water, love more, care more, call our mom, tell someone we love them.
Taking action can be scary, I understand. Taking action demolishes your excuses which means that you could potentially fail. But guess what? There are no real failures. There’s wins and then there are lessons. Failing isn’t a bad thing – heck, I like to go hard and fail anyway! Why? Because I know that growth doesn’t happen when you get it right all of the time. Growth doesn’t come when everything goes right. You grow when you fail. You grow when you can look back and see what could’ve and should’ve been done differently. Then you do it again. And you learn some more.
You have so much more power over your life than you think you do. That isn’t to say you need to be a control freak. Coming from a recovering control freak, don’t do that. But there is a difference between “I’m trying to control everything” and “I’m making the decision to go after my best life.”
When our life isn’t where we want it, we have two choices. Actively move to change it and work towards the life we want, or sit in the comfortable discomfort and continue to complain about it.
“But Karleigh! How dare you?! You have no idea how hard my life is. You have no idea what I go through! You have no idea how hard I work!”
Girl, that may be true, and if you want to sit there and, as my girl Jasmine Star says, fight for your limitations, I’ll let you. If you want to stay stuck, then that’s fine. You do you.
But I know what I’ve been through. And I know what it’s like to want to stay uncomfortable.
It feels good to complain. It feels good to have excuses. It feels good to put the blame for our life on everyone and everything but ourselves.
The situation you’re in, you can get out.
Now I’m not saying that it’s going to be easy. I’m not saying it will happen overnight. I’m not saying that what happened to you was your fault.
What happened to you was not your fault, but your healing is your responsibility. Healing isn’t something anyone can do but yourself.
So you can choose to sit there and continue to complain about your crappy circumstances. Or you can choose to make today the day you take the first step toward the rest of your life.
I say this to you because I know you’re capable of doing so. I know that you can do this.
You’re strong enough.
You’re capable enough.
You’re intelligent enough.
You’re WORTHY. Period.
Stop giving yourself excuses. Stop holding back.
Boo, you’re capable of more than you could ever believe. You just have to go after it.
You’ve got this.