It’s my birthday! I’m 27 years old!
When I was 17, I got into my first abusive relationship.
I’m now 27. So this is pretty monumental for me.
Plus, I’m only 3 years away from being 30. Many people I know don’t like the thought of aging. But man, I’m so excited to be 30. I mean, I’m not going to lie. When I think of being 30, I think of “30, Flirty, and Thriving.” Has anyone else seen 13 Going on 30?! I think I’m going to watch that tonight.
30 feels like true adulthood. I’m no longer in my 20s and will be farther along in life.
I realize that that doesn’t happen without intention, so what I’m going to share with you are some of my biggest goals to achieve in the next 3 years before I hit the big Three-Zero.
I am a very goal oriented person. If I don’t have something I’m actively working toward, I feel lost. I go inside of myself and basically live on the Xbox. I mean, I still play a lot, but only after I’ve worked toward my goals.
I have a lot of goals. I have massive financial goals, and those goals terrify me. I have goals for motherhood, goals for fitness. But what I want to talk about today are my goals that will make the most impact.
Now that isn’t to take away from any personal goals, and I don’t want you to think that your goals aren’t ‘good’ if they don’t have impact. But if I listed all of my goals, we’d be here for six hours. And nobody wants to hear me ramble on for that long, not even me.
A really big goal I’ve set for myself this year is to impact a thousand women. Through my podcast, through courses, through individual coaching and through the Runway to Freedom group coaching program.
So I want to completely magnify that goal. By the time I’m 30, I want to have impacted over 5000 women’s lives, and that’s the lower end of my goal.
It has always been on my heart to speak to women, both young women and teenagers, as well as grown adults. Even more so, I have always felt called to speak about my experiences with abusive relationships and my plethora of “daddy issues.” But if I’m being honest, I ran from it. I didn’t want to talk about that stuff all of the time. Sure I could share with a woman here or there that really needed it, but I didn’t want to relive it over and over again.
But what I didn’t realize is that so many more women than I could have ever imagined needed it. Not only that, the more I worked on myself, the easier it became to talk about. The more I talked about it, the more freedom I felt. Now, I talk about abuse, whether in the depths of it, post abusive relationship recovery, or prevention, all of the time and I have never felt more free and empowered.
Because now I am no longer owned by those stories. Those men no longer run my life. When I look back, it isn’t to relive it or think about what I could’ve done differently. It’s to help other women get out of that situation. It’s to help women keep from repeating that situation. While it’s never fun to talk about it, I have found my passion. I have found what speaks to me and what speaks to other women. So by the time I’m 30, want to have impacted over 5000 women’s lives.
Another one of my big goals is to have not only spoken on stage, but to create my own my conference for young women aged 16-18. It was around that time that I fell into an eating disorder. It was when I was 17 that I got into my first abusive relationship. It was that time that I desperately needed someone to speak me on a level that I truly understood. I want to provide that. I want to give a real and raw perspective
When I say I see myself up on stage, there’s no way for me to put into words how real it feels. I see myself up there, looking down on hundreds, maybe thousands of young women. Being honest, sharing the hard truths, being raw and real and open. Reminding these girls that they are worth SO MUCH MORE than they could ever imagine.
I see myself sharing my stories of struggling with body image and self harm, sharing about my abusive relationships, sharing about how I made it on the other side and it is just so freaking BEAUTIFUL over here.
I haven’t shared about this publicly in a very long time, but I want to finally publish a book. Writing has always been my first love. Books were my escape from my reality, and I’m a massive reader. But writing meant I could quite literally create my own.
I want to write a book about my confidence journey, hopefully inspiring others to do the same. But even more than that, I want to publish the fiction book that I’ve written a few chapters of, but has gathered a bit of dust over the last year. I’m a huge fan of nonfiction. It’s all I’ve read over the last couple of years, and I read at least 2 books a week.
But there’s something about fiction that just has a magic about it. With fiction books, you disappear into a completely different world. Whether it’s fantasy, historical, sci-fi, realistic, anime, comics. There is a power that fiction books hold. You can share huge messages within a fiction book that just don’t set in the same when shared in a straight up way.
I want to inspire girls and show them that even though we’re all fighting our demons, that we’re all worthy of love, worthy of respect, worthy of a life they love.
The final goal that I have, and it’s more of a personal one, but one that still has impact. I want to own my home and be debt free, including a mortgage. This one scares me to admit outloud, in fact I think this is the first time I’ve straight up admitted it at all.
Ok, Karleigh. We get it. You want to own a home. You want to be debt free. How does that impact anyone?
Because if I can do it, then I know anyone can do it. I want you to realize that you’re capable of dreaming bigger dreams. I want you to dream bigger than you ever thought possible. I want you to dream dreams that absolutely terrify you. When you allow yourself to dream that big, you push yourself to take massive action. When you take massive action, you make progress towards those dreams.
If I have the story of being broken, of not wanting to live, of worrying about paying the rent to owning a home and being debt free, then I know that anyone can have that story. Am I there yet? No. And that’s ok!
You’re allowed to dream dreams that are bigger than anything that you can imagine. You’re allowed to dream dreams that are far fetched and don’t seem possible. You’re allowed to go after your absolute best life, even if other people don’t understand it.
That’s what I’m going to leave you with today. All of these dreams that I have began as dreams, but I have created plans and made them goals. I have timelines and I’m actively working towards those goals every single day.
I’m scared. I’m terrified. I don’t exactly know how it will work. But I still work towards them every day.
Dream big dreams. Create big goals. Create big plans with massive action that will help you achieve those goals. What’s a big milestone coming up for you? Find that and start to create some goals.
I’d love it if you’d DM me on Instagram and tell me what those big dreams are! I want to hold you accountable, I want to cheer you on, I won’t let you give up on yourself.
I’m so excited for what the next three years hold and I can’t wait to see how this plays out.
As always – you’re strong, you’re capable, you are intelligent, and you are worthy.