Have you ever been too stubborn to ask for help, only to regret it later? Do you have the mindset of ‘I’d rather fail on my own than to admit that I need help’?
Oooooh girl I get it. I get it and I’m embarrassed to admit I needed that lesson taught to me more than a few times.
What you don’t realize, though, is that asking for help doesn’t make you weak. Knowing that you’re not perfect, knowing that you can’t do everything on your own, and asking for help to make that happen is probably one of the greatest signs of strength.
I hated asking for help growing up. I pushed myself to the brink of mental breakdowns because I refused to ask for help.
When I was struggling with certain subjects in school, instead of asking for help, I would stress myself out to the point of getting sick and then just give up.
When I was struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts, I didn’t ask for help. I tried stuffing the feelings until they overflowed.
That seems like a big jump, but it was also everything inbetween.
Because of my fear of looking stupid, a fear of looking weak, I didn’t ask for help and it almost cost me my life.
I looked for attention in other ways, and found myself in a string of abusive relationships.
What I didn’t realize is that when you ask for help, you get help. When you get help, you learn. When you learn, you apply what you learn and your confidence grows. Then you ask for more help. So you get more help, you learn more, and your confidence grows exponentially. And the cycle continues.
It wasn’t until I reached out, in the form of ordering a book, that I finally felt like I was worth helping.
I finally found a coach that spoke life into me and reminded me of my potential and my purpose. So I asked for more help. And I wanted to learn more. The more I learned, the more I found I didn’t know. Instead of becoming frustrated, I sought more help.
I’m currently taking several online courses. I’m reading books and taking notes. I’m reaching out and talking to experts in the areas I need to grow in.
Something that I realized recently is that there are parts of me that don’t believe that I’m capable of being in a healthy relationship. I struggle with conflict and I’m finding that the things that have been holding me back are much more deep rooted than I thought. So I’m seeking help for those things.
I’ve found people and books to turn to. I’m working on journaling out my thoughts and feelings and getting coached until I’m able to get into therapy for these things.
Refusing to ask for help caused me to live a lonely, angry life. Asking for help opened me up to the world I now love and am proud to be apart of.
I don’t want that for you. I don’t want you to waste years and years running from the thing that can change your life.
That’s why I created the Runway to Freedom group coaching program for women who have gotten out of abusive relationships. We learned in those relationships that asking for help got us hurt. But I’m here to tell you that you were taught those things by someone who manipulated you out of your true self and your true potential. I’m here to help to break those habits and help you step into your most confident self so you can lead a strong, independent life.
If that’s something you’re interested in, go to karleighlynne.com/runwaytofreedom to register. Registration is only open until May 21st and you get access to beta pricing – so make sure you jump in sooner rather than later.
Whatever it is you need, ask for it. If you need to get out of an abusive relationship, reach out. If you need help finding therapy, reach out. If you need help learning something new, there are so many online courses available it’s ridiculous.
Never be ashamed of asking for help. Never feel it’s weakness.
Asking for help is a sign of strength and confidence in yourself. Admitting you don’t know how to do everything, is a sign of self assurance and strength. Never be ashamed of that.